I’m Maria, I’m 53 years old, and I’ve been with my husband for 32 years. Two of our daughters formerly resided with us, but they now live elsewhere.
My 15-year marriage to my spouse was blissful, but it was tainted by a few little issues that come up in every household. Due to a bank debt, we were forced to give up our flat in 1995. Because we had two small children, we were forced to move in with my parents.
Three years later, my husband and I both went to France, leaving our daughters in my parents’ care. After working hard for two years, we were both able to buy a house.
Because the house we bought was far from my parents, we had to leave my husband in France by himself, and I had to stay in Romania with the daughters. During this period, we occasionally had face-to-face encounters and phone conversations.
My husband met another lady at this time, and she helped him become a person he could no longer control.
He was rude, even to our girls, and he didn’t want us to go visit him. It surprised both my youngest daughter, who still loves my husband greatly, and myself. I suffered a mental breakdown, stopped eating, couldn’t sleep, and it felt like my life was a never-ending nightmare.
Years passed, I obtained employment, and I progressively lost memory of what had transpired. After being fired from his job and declaring bankruptcy, my husband one day asked our girls if he could come home.
We embraced him and gave him forgiveness, yet he still cheated on me. Every time he had an extramarital affair, he couldn’t keep it a secret, so I found out.
Then, after acting appropriately for a while, he went to Africa and, of course, there he met a lady who was 24 years old and younger than his own daughters. He has a mistress who is 20 years younger than him, but she is also his current mistress. He works in France and sees his family once a month. Despite the fact that I learned about this connection from him, he denies having it.
Please give me some advice.