After her husband’s father died, one woman refused to take her husband’s little sister in because she and her husband had agreed that they did not want to have children together.

A Reddit post that was twice restricted contained information about a man feeling conflicted about his little sister’s care. The original poster (OP) planned to do anything he could for her, but his wife did not think the same way.

The OP and his wife had been married for two years when the OP’s father passed away, leaving his sister with nobody to care for her. The OP’s sister is much younger than he is, making him more like a father figure than an older brother.

The OP’s little sister was eleven when their father passed away. The OP and his wife had not welcomed any children then and had no plans to have any children in the future. The couple not wanting children is where the problem came in.

The OP and his family suffered a significant loss, and as they mourned the loss, they had some difficult decisions to make. However, these decisions caused unexpected tensions. The OP shared:

Both men knew it was a significant decision and decided to include the little girl, allowing her to choose where she would prefer to live. The little girl decided to stay with the OP.

However, the problem began when the OP’s wife clarified that she did not want children and that taking his sister in would mean that they had a child. The wife argued that since the little girl’s uncle could adopt her, she and her husband shouldn’t have to.

The OP said that since his sister was left with no parents after their father had died, he wanted to ensure she recovered healthily, and since she had expressed a desire to be with the OP, he was not going to force her to stay with their uncle.

The decision caused much tension between the girl’s brother and his wife. However, after a while, the OP told his wife that he would let his sister stay with them whether she liked it or not. He also told her they would divorce if she could not accept it. After that, they did not talk for a while.

The OP then updated the post, saying he and his wife had talked it over again and decided to go their separate ways. He added:

The OP told his wife that he didn’t want to have the conversation again and that whatever she understood of the situation was okay. He also explained that his sister was his priority at that time.

That was the last conversation the OP and his wife had. He also said: “I have been living with my sister for 1 week now. Being a single father-ish brother is definitely challenging, but I am really enjoying it.”

Many people had strong opinions about the OP’s post, with many agreeing that he had done the right thing for his sister and that his wife was selfish for not opening her home to a young girl in need.

One person added a valuable piece of advice, saying that if the OP had children or anyone reading had children, they should have a will saying who would take guardianship of their children when they died.

Another person shared their experience, saying after their parents had died, their half-sister took them in, and it was apparent they weren’t wanted there. The person then ran away when they were 15, and neither their half-sister nor her husband reported it.

This commenter said it had worked out best that the OP and his wife split because his sister would pick up on it if she weren’t welcome. Another person who did not have children said it would have been a dealbreaker even for them.

Some people came to the OP’s wife’s defense, saying she knew her limits and could not care for a child dealing with such immense trauma. Another said the OP’s wife did not want to be a mother, and raising his sister would essentially place her in the position to be one.Another person said they would ordinarily side with the wife, but because she had been immature in saying the OP was picking his sister over her, they didn’t feel it was fair on the OP and his sister.